diff --git a/index.html b/index.html index 784c9fd..d5311ef 100644 --- a/index.html +++ b/index.html @@ -249,11 +249,11 @@ <<timed 14s>><<type 60ms>>[[Explore the ingredients of love.->Ingredients of Love]]<</type>><</timed>><<audio "antithetical" play>> <<type 42ms>>bell hooks states that love and abuse cannot coexist. By definition the two are antithetical to nurturance and care. This was something my chosen-mother, Crystal, had instilled unto me early on in the dynamic of our relationship.<</type>> -<<timed 16s>><<type 30ms>>Many of us—myself included, come from dysfunctional environments. Within these situations we are taught to believe that emotional, verbal, and/or physical abuse/neglect are part of love and the process of being loved. Bell Hooks says (Paraphrased):<</type>><</timed>> +<<timed 16s>><<type 30ms>>Many of us—myself included, come from dysfunctional environments. Within these situations we are taught to believe that emotional, verbal, and/or physical abuse/neglect are part of love and the process of being loved. bell hooks says (Paraphrased):<</type>><</timed>> <<timed 18s>><<type 28ms>>For most people, it is too hurtful and too threatening to our sense of safety to embrace a definition of love that would no longer enable us to be 'loved' within our family, friendships and relationships. We find the need to cling to a twisted-version of love that makes abuse acceptable or at least makes us downplay it [abuse] to a point where it was 'not that bad'.<</type>><</timed>> -[[Return to Love and Abuse.->Love and Abuse]]<<type 100ms>>Bell Hooks: +[[Return to Love and Abuse.->Love and Abuse]]<<type 100ms>>bell hooks: “Affection is only one ingredient of love. To truly love we must learn to mix various ingredients—care, affection, recognition, respect, commitment, and trust, as well as honest and open communication. ” <</type>> @@ -275,7 +275,7 @@ [[Return to the Introduction and read again.->Introduction]]<<type 60ms>>From nature to nurture I followed formulas of my traumas like a baby on Gerber.<</type>> <<timed 5s>><<type 60ms>>I stumbled into trouble and had to learn to be humble.<</type>> <</timed>> <<type 40ms>>I had to learn to speak up, take up space and learn not to mumble.<</type>> -<<timed 14s>><<type 60ms>>You taught me to be assertive without being crass and you gave me the [[recipe->Bell Hooks Excerpt 2]] to make love last.<</type>><</timed>> +<<timed 14s>><<type 60ms>>You taught me to be assertive without being crass and you gave me the [[recipe->bell hooks Excerpt 2]] to make love last.<</type>><</timed>> <<timed 18s>><<type 40ms>>[[Proceed to the epilogue->Epilogue]]<</type>><</timed>><<type 35ms>>The prompt for this poem was to write an open letter to anyone who has made an impact on your life, directly or indirectly.<</type>> <<type 42ms>>On 08/19/2023, we reconnected with those collections that make us, us and reminisce on who we’ve become thanks to them.<</type>> @@ -308,7 +308,7 @@ <<timed 6s>><<type 15ms>>You took away my love & replaced it with something new..<</type>><</timed>> -<<timed 10s>><<type 50ms>>You showed me that what I once thought was love was, was actually [[abuse->Bell Hooks Excerpt]].<</type>><</timed>> +<<timed 10s>><<type 50ms>>You showed me that what I once thought was love was, was actually [[abuse->bell hooks Excerpt]].<</type>><</timed>> <<timed 14s>><<type 40ms>>