*: add metadata lock when using the plan cache (#51897)

[ti-chi-bot]

This is an automated cherry-pick of #51897

What problem does this PR solve?

Issue Number: close #51407

Problem Summary:
When executing the prepared statement from the plan cache, tidb doesn't add the metadata lock, which may cause data-index inconsistency.

What changed and how does it work?

1. Collect the related table information when PREPARE.
2. Add metadata lock during planCachePreprocess. If the schema is changed, can't use the cache plan anymore.

Check List

Tests

• Unit test
• Integration test
• Manual test (add detailed scripts or steps below)
• No need to test

  • I checked and no code files have been changed.

Side effects

• Performance regression: Consumes more CPU
• Performance regression: Consumes more Memory
• Breaking backward compatibility

Documentation

• Affects user behaviors
• Contains syntax changes
• Contains variable changes
• Contains experimental features
• Changes MySQL compatibility

Release note

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fix a bug that metadata lock is missing when using the plan cache

[zimulala]

@wjhuang2016 Please address comments

[zimulala]

LGTM

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• 2024-11-08 02:51:17.152826161 +0000 UTC m=+1182189.991981709: ☑️ agreed by zimulala.

[zimulala]

@wjhuang2016 Please fix the tests.

[wjhuang2016]

/retest

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idc-jenkins-ci-tidb/unit-test	33e2870	link	true	/test unit-test

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